1) My secret is: Love yourself first! Everything that surrounds you begins with you. The cause and effect of the things that happen daily are also attracted due to how you portray yourself and your mindset. Once you learn to love yourself, others will treasure you, because you are as important as anybody else on earth. Big or small, petite or plus size, you can make a difference in this world. So do not belittle that self-worth and that will transcend into Confidence! We can slap on all the make-up in the world and put on our super-confident high heels, but self-confidence cannot be just worn, it comes from you. Confidence can make you glow even in a room filled with skinny chicks. Now that we’ve addressed the internal, let’s talk about the external. I make sure that I’m constantly well-groomed, as I know in Singapore, it is common for non-plus size people to give us less credit. But if you show that you’re just as groomed as them, they’ll actually look at you for your true beauty, rather than just your size first. Non-plus size people work so hard to make themselves look good, why should we be less groomed? Go figure. 🙂
2) Challenges: The challenges of being a plus-sized individual in Singapore.
i) Family Reunions: “Oh, you put on weight again?! What happened? Aiyo, you look so pretty but so wasted, why so fat?” *Laughs*
It is normal Singapore culture for relatives to comment on body weight, especially if you haven’t seen them much, it’s because they have no other topics to relate to you. So they pick the most obvious thing to talk about. It’s just another hot topic to them, don’t take it to heart, move on.
ii) Dating: Dating in Singapore is not easy for plus-size women but it doesn’t mean that your other half doesn’t exist, you just haven’t met the right one yet. I look on the bright side, because if there are men/women who cannot appreciate you for who you are, then you already know that the relationship definitely won’t work out. Rather than dating 10 men in your life who makes you feel insecure about your weight and comments on your weight every so often, wouldn’t it be easier to date just 3-5 who are real and know that if the relationship doesn’t work out it has nothing to do with your weight, because looks wasn’t the foundation of that relationship in the first place. It’s actually a faster way to sieve out the people you know aren’t suitable for you. Doesn’t that seem so much better?
iii) Growing up: I was told by my parents that nobody would hire you because you’re fat, that’s not true. Nobody will hire you if you’re lazy; they mean fat people are lazy. Also NOT TRUE! I’ve no issues getting hired because I prove my worth with my results and none of my bosses have issues with my weight. So my conclusion is, know your strengths and don’t be afraid to show them, as long as it helps the company you work for, your weight is none of their concern.
3) Swimming & Dancing: I love swimming because the weather’s been pretty hot lately and I attend occasional dance classes as I love music. Shake that booty*